Abigail Ransom

I attribute my success to my nieces, Mallori and Lexi. My first niece was born when I was in the room, and then my youngest niece came about three years later. I am extremely close with them, and everything I've done, I've done because of them. I determined to show them that you get to choose how you live your life, and you don't have to stay stuck in cycles. That is the biggest reason why I've been successful in my life.

I had a nurse practitioner that I saw shortly after my second brother Josh passed, and I was just crying in her office and she looked at me and said, "Whatever you do, don't let this turn you hard. Stay soft and stay true to yourself." I've always been a very loving person and the rock for people, including my brothers, even though they were older than me. I realized that I couldn't let the things that felt like they were breaking me, actually break me. I had to intentionally stay that soft, kind and loving person that I am. That was and is still so important. I could feel myself hardening and not wanting to talk to people or be around people, and her actually using the words "stay soft" made me feel seen which allowed me to internalize it for good.

I would tell them to step into their fear and do it anyways. I feel like that's kind of a little cliche at times, but I have been terrified of doing this, and I was pushed into doing it because of getting laid off. Instead of sticking to a position that I was comfortable in, I took the leap. I've been terrified to do it, and now I have this weight that is lifted off of me. I feel so much more connected with myself, with my body, and with the purpose that I know that I have. You have to be willing to limit some of your wants and just focus on your needs. I know that if I limit some of my wants and just focus on my needs, all these seeds that I'm planting are going to flourish, and ultimately, I will be able to have the things that I want later on, as well as not just the things that I need. So be scared while doing something new!

The biggest challenge is that there are a lot of influencers that are just adding the word 'coach' to their titles, and I think a lot of them are pushing supplements and things to kind of make money off of it. I genuinely want to be someone that's there with you while you're struggling, and I'm not trying to make money off of your pain. That's just a bonus, because I do value my time and the perspective that I'm able to bring. But I do think that's the challenge, is that too many people want to be this influencer coach and make tons of money, and I think they're taking advantage of people who are vulnerable. The biggest opportunity is that the genuine people stand out. Being genuine with who you are and the message that you are bringing is the opportunity. You're not pushing things onto people, and you have something that they can actually use to better their lives, like language, verbal language and body language. Those things are so important, and I think we forget about those, especially now in a virtual world.

Creativity is very important to me. Honesty with kindness is crucial. I think brutal honesty is bullshit, sorry to use that word, but you don't have to be mean when you're honest. Being generous with your time matters to me. And honesty with yourself is essential. Those are the values that guide me in both my work and personal life.