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At 13 years old, I was given six months to live.

This August marks 24 years in remission from brain cancer—but survival was only the beginning of my story, not the defining moment.

Treatment changed my body almost overnight. I gained 60 pounds in two weeks, eventually reaching 350 pounds. I became physically disabled and spent time in a wheelchair. My body, covered in scars from my face to my ankles, became something I didn’t recognize—something I felt disconnected from rather than at home in.

Then came another layer of trauma.

At 21, I married the man who had assaulted me. We were married for 15 years. Untangling the psychological impact of that experience required me to confront not only what had been done to me, but how I had learned to survive it. Leaving that marriage forced me to grow up in ways I hadn’t yet been able to—to reclaim independence, identity, and ultimately, ownership of my life.

For years, I lived with the belief that my body was something to endure, not something to celebrate.

But that belief didn’t hold.

Despite being told I wouldn’t go to college, I earned both my bachelor’s degree in psychology and my master’s degree in social science. While my disabilities have limited traditional career paths, they’ve deepened my understanding of resilience, trauma, and what it truly means to rebuild from the inside out.

Today, as my health improves, I’m focused on reclaiming my body—not just physically, but emotionally and psychologically. I speak openly about my experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and borderline personality disorder, not as limitations, but as realities I’ve learned to navigate.

Through public speaking, comedy, and my upcoming memoir, I use my voice to reach others who feel disconnected from themselves—people who have been told, directly or indirectly, that their bodies or their pasts define their worth.

I believe something different.

Confidence is not reserved for a certain body type. Sensuality is not reserved for people without scars. And healing is not about becoming someone new—it’s about returning to yourself.

I’m currently developing a nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting individuals and families impacted by addiction, while also providing resources such as tutoring, life coaching, and scholarships. In addition, I’m working to produce a comedy show featuring performers who have lived through trauma, using humor as a way to connect, process, and challenge stigma.

Because laughter doesn’t erase pain—it makes it survivable.

Influence, to me, isn’t about having a perfect story. It’s about telling the truth in a way that allows others to see themselves differently.

My life has been shaped by circumstances I didn’t choose. But how I live it now—that is mine.

And I choose to live it fully, in the same body that carried me through everything that tried to break me.