Cristine Bolley, Licensed Professional Counselor and National Certified Counselor on Influential Women

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Cristine Bolley

Licensed Professional Counselor and National Certified Counselor, dba Wings Unlimited

Tulsa, OK

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Degree Degree in Counseling Member KidsForPeaceglobal.org Member Watercolor Society

Her Story

About Cristine

I see life in three acts. First, we learn. Act 2, we do. In Act 3, we teach. I'm currently in Act 3, semi-retired and still doing counseling online. My big vision has always been personal empowerment. I believe that the way we influence people is one of three ways: with respect, offer rewards, or offer rejection. In all my counseling years, I've always encouraged executives, parents, and children not to use rejection as their way to get what they want. Leadership is showing respect to people and helping them flourish in the gifts that they have. I spent 30 years in publishing as editorial director, doing acquisitions and development with authors, helping them tell their best story. When my youngest went off to college and we were empty-nested, I went back to school and got a degree in counseling. I spent the next 15 years with one-on-one counseling and saw over a thousand clients. I started with children who were sexually abused, and I don't think it gets any harder than that, but I found out kids are so resilient and respond well to having positive attention in their life. I believe in mentorship and pulling together to learn from each other and use our gifts to support each other. I'm in the phase of life now where I'm putting together all that I learned through publishing on how-to and what needs to be said through my counseling background.

Her Interview

Ten minutes with Cristine

01What do you attribute your success to?

I realized when I retired that retirement is boring if you don't keep following your passion. I probably spent 2 or 3 years just telling people I don't know what to do with my life now that I'm retired, but I finally realized that retirement isn't an opportunity to stop, it's an opportunity to start doing the thing you really want to do. What drives me is the desire for people to have a good life and to enjoy life the way I do, to have just the joy of getting out of this life everything that we should be getting. I go by the theme of Einstein, who says, for what reason we're here, I'm not sure, but I do know we're here for each other. I'm probably more of an introvert because I have an internal world processing all the time in my thoughts, but eventually that's a lonely place if you don't come out and connect with people. I feel like I've learned a lot of good things in life, and I'm at a point in life where it's just really fun to share those signposts that help you make good decisions along the way. There's still a lot to be said that I haven't said yet, and that's probably what drives me.

02What values are most important to you in your work and personal life?

I believe in personal empowerment and that the way we influence people should be through respect, not rejection. In all my counseling years, I've always encouraged executives, parents, and children not to use rejection as their way to get what they want, not the threat with punishment or threat with taking things away. Leadership is showing respect to people and helping them flourish in the gifts that they have. I believe in mentorship and pulling together to learn from each other and to use our gifts to support each other. I go by Einstein's theme that for what reason we're here, I'm not sure, but I do know we're here for each other. I want people to have a good life and to enjoy life, to get out of this life everything that we should be getting.

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