Esther Carlson

I attribute my success to my insatiable desire to grow and push myself. I've also learned from the blind spot of thinking that other people are the same as me, and getting back and realizing that not everybody thinks the way I do. Pushing on that really hard helped me learn to be able to identify who does want the solutions to the bigger problems. Once you know that, then you can work with people that are in alignment with what you're doing. That's a hard thing for people because you have to be willing to let go. I've also had a lot of failure, ridicule, and constant adversity. I've been gifted with this vision and transparency about the way the world works, partially because of all the challenges I've been through. I understand people are so wed to their identities, and that's part of the emotional intelligence work I do.

The best advice I ever received was from one of my best male friends who told me, 'Esther, you are the one that's gonna take care of you. Nobody's gonna come along and just fix all this for you.' No one's gonna take care of you, you have to take care of yourself. I don't mean that in a selfish way, I mean that in a loving way. All of us have the Cinderella complex, especially in my age group, where there's this biology that if I'm pretty and I give you a baby or have great sex with you, you're gonna take care of me, and that's just not true. If you think that, you're gonna attract men that won't take care of you because you need to learn that. Once you figure it out that you are responsible for you and you're gonna take care of yourself, men will be knocking at your door that take care of you, and you can still let them, or you get to the point where you just don't want them to, and that's okay too.

My advice would be: Are you sure you want to? In order to really help people, you have to prioritize helping yourself first. A lot of women that want to help people want to do it within the parameters of keeping their own life undisturbed, and that's just not going to happen. That's part of why I like working with people, because it continues to keep me on the path of evolving and expanding who I am. I think all of us come here on the planet to fulfill a certain purpose, and if you're not happy, you're probably not fulfilling yours. In order to transform that, you need to transform your life, which I've done multiple times. Now I'm not afraid of it anymore, I actually like it. I also think women need to understand that we don't want to be more like men, we want to expand to be more like we're built to be. Women are a hybrid with superior skills in so many ways. Why would I want to be paid at their level or do their jobs? I have my own job to do that they can't do.

I would say that the new war on the planet is how we use technology, social media, and AI in order to discredit or destroy the character of a person. The biggest challenge is that you need credibility in order for a new thought to be brought out there. I have this capacity to perceive the world differently and kind of work outside of the matrix but still live within it, and I can be a really good tour guide or navigator through that because I've learned to navigate myself in and still be me in it. The greatest challenge is that you're perceived to be a threat whenever you think differently, and of course that's historically always been the case. They'll go after your kids, they'll go after your money. There's answers for cancer, there's answers for everything really, and when you start to train individuals or engage with individuals that feel supported in them thinking differently in order to resolve their own problems, then you become a cult leader, you become this out-there person that's not scientific. They'll just come up with anything to destroy your character and make you look like a stupid person. That's happened to me multiple times.

I think the number one value in my work and home life is the freedom for an individual to expand into their fullest self. Freedom's probably at the top. Second to that, but so closely joined, is the cooperation or the connection that you get with community, either family, work, or small groups. We're very community-oriented people. I think in order to develop the new Earth that we're working on, we need to develop systems and communities that are supported with both of those values. You don't just get a job to do a role, you get a position where you meet an objective and then you expand who you are within it. If everybody in that company does that, the company and the work and everything's gonna be better. There'll be an emergent property that's far superior, kind of like making brownies where the ingredients all work together to make really good brownies or rubbery brownies. Those are my highest values: freedom and community.