Kathryn E. Darden

In business, the most useful advice is often the simplest. For me, it came from my father in just a few words: "Don't say can't" and "always try." That quiet directive, paired with his steady belief in me, became the foundation for building and sustaining a publishing business through decades of industry change.

If you had asked me when I first started building a publishing and journalism business who inspired my career, I likely wouldn't have named my father. We had become somewhat estranged during my teenage years. Then, like many young adults eager to build their own path, I moved out, married, and moved on, putting distance between my ambition and my roots.

During those years, my father's world grew silent. He had been a decorated World War II officer, a diplomat, and later the security officer in charge of presidential visits for the Corps of Engineers when I was young. But as I moved on to build my own career, his world grew inward. He retired, lost much of his hearing, turned increasingly to alcohol, and eventually slipped into the fog of Alzheimer's disease. By the time I stepped back in to try to help him several years later, the opportunity for a deep, two-way conversation had passed.

Yet when I was recently interviewed about my career and asked about my greatest influences by Influential Women, his memory was the first thing that came to mind. The best business advice I ever received came directly from him: "Don't say can't, and always try."

Long before I entered the corporate world, my father was laying the groundwork for my success. But his silent faith in me meant even more than his words.

Growing up in abject rural poverty, he pushed past every obstacle to build a career for himself. He was the one who encouraged my writing, teaching me the basics of drafting press releases and pitching articles to publications. He gave me the tactical tools to be heard and the education to succeed, but more importantly, he believed in me and instilled the mindset required to survive in business: persistence, integrity, and absolute resilience.

Work hard. Find a solution. Keep going.

That philosophy has guided every professional and personal milestone I've achieved and carried me through decades of industry upheaval.

For a long time, I carried the weight of the years we lost. But regret is only useful if it drives action. Today, I am honoring his legacy the best way I know how-by writing a book about his life. I am taking the very skills he taught me and using them to tell the story of the man who refused to give up and instilled in me the motivation to keep going.

We don't always realize the impact of our foundations while we are standing on them. My father's life wasn't perfect, but his belief in me was absolute. In business and in life, learning to believe in myself, to try, and to never give up was the greatest gift he ever gave me.

The best business lessons are not always delivered in boardrooms or books. Sometimes they arrive early, simply, and without fanfare. My father's insistence on trying-and his absolute belief that I could-taught me the mindset that still guides every professional decision I make.

In business, as in life, the willingness to keep going remains one of the most practical advantages you can have.

About the Author

Kathryn Darden is the owner and publisher of Christian Activities, an online magazine she founded in 1988 as a local print handout and transitioned online in 1995. A prolific writer whose work spans local, national, and international print and digital outlets-including Yahoo, literary journals, and recent features in The Baptist & Reflector and Good News Lebanon-she focuses on stories of faith, arts, and culture.

A 2026 honoree of both Marquis Who's Who in America and Influential Women, Kathryn continues to advocate for substantive, purpose-driven media.

The Quiet Power of Showing Up

In 1976, the year of America's Bicentennial, my father was listed in Who's Who in the Southwest. Fifty years later, as the nation marks its Semiquincentennial in 2026, I received word that I had been selected for Who's Who in America, closely followed by an invitation to join Influential Women.

Two generations. Two national milestone years. Two unexpected notices that someone had been watching the work.

When the Who's Who honor arrived, a publicist friend kindly offered to write a press release for me. But as she began drafting, she hit a wall.

"Earning a listing isn't the headline," she explained.

She started probing for classic PR hooks: "Did you ever break a major national story? Were you the very first to interview an artist who later became a superstar? What's the single outstanding achievement we can point to?"

I looked back over my career and gave her my honest answer:

Really, nothing like that. I just showed up every day and did the work.

I hadn't built a media empire overnight, nor had I chased viral scoops. What I had done, every day, was steadily research, write, edit, and publish.

In 1988, while working at a Christian bookstore, I began publishing a paper handout about local Christian music events to give to customers. In 1992, while working as a middle-school teacher, I took that concept and expanded it into a simple magazine about Christian music to give my students wholesome, hopeful alternatives to what they were consuming.

In 1994, we created a web presence, and in 1995, we claimed our domain and transitioned online as ChristianActivities.com-long before digital publishing was the norm.

For more than three decades, the work was mostly unseen.

I taught school by day and edited articles at night and on weekends. When teaching ended, retail jobs took its place.

I never made a fortune from the site, and for decades, the broader media industry might have picked up a free copy or glanced at the website, but they largely looked elsewhere.

Still, I kept planting seeds-publishing reviews, promoting community events, and pointing readers toward stories of faith and hope.

In today's fast-paced business culture, we are taught to measure leadership by instant metrics: follower counts, viral content, quick exits, and sensational headlines. If an achievement can't be summarized in a catchy PR pitch, we are tempted to believe it doesn't count.

But my publicist friend's questions helped me realize a deeper truth about influence:

Real impact is rarely built in a single splash. It is built through the sacrifice and persistence of the quiet years.

If I could share three principles with fellow women leaders, creators, and entrepreneurs currently building in obscurity, they would be these:

1. Legacy Is Built on Consistency, Not Virality

The daily, unglamorous execution-answering emails, polishing content, serving your core audience-compounds over decades into trust that cannot be bought.

What looks ordinary in the moment can become extraordinary through consistency.

2. Purpose Outlasts Recognition

If your primary driver is public applause, the quiet seasons will eventually break your resolve.

When your work is anchored in serving others, the work itself becomes the reward.

Recognition may come. It may not.

But purpose gives you a reason to continue either way.

3. Someone Is Always Watching the Seed-Planting

The harvest rarely arrives on our preferred schedule.

But no effort rooted in faithful service is ever truly wasted.

You may not know who is reading, watching, learning, benefiting, or being encouraged by what you are doing today. You may never see the full impact of the seeds you plant.

Keep planting anyway.

Fifty years after my father's listing, two major recognitions arrived at once. I take them not as a signal that the work has finally begun to matter, but as a small reminder that the long obedience mattered all along.

That distinction is important.

The recognition didn't create the value of the work. It simply illuminated work that had been happening quietly for decades.

To every woman currently teaching, writing, leading, creating, or building something meaningful behind the scenes:

Keep going.

Don't let the absence of applause convince you that your work doesn't matter.

Don't confuse visibility with impact.

Don't abandon something meaningful simply because the results aren't arriving on your preferred timeline.

Keep showing up.

Keep serving.

Keep planting.

The recognition may take care of itself. But the work is yours to keep doing.

Kathryn Darden is the Owner and Publisher of Christian Activities, an online magazine she founded in 1988 as a local print handout and transitioned online in 1995. A prolific writer whose work spans local, national, and international print and digital outlets-including Yahoo, literary journals, and recent features in The Baptist & Reflector and Good News Lebanon-she focuses on stories of faith, arts, and culture. A 2026 honoree for both Marquis Who's Who in America and Influential Women, Kathryn continues to advocate for substantive, purpose-driven media.