Nikole Vetter

I attribute my success to being naturally a very empathetic person and having so much passion for what I discovered that I just could not keep it to myself. Being able to create my own healing was lovely, but then discovering how through simple steps I could create a whole world of joy for myself, and then hearing close friends of mine dealing with the same things but constantly just being offered pills without a long-term solution, really hurt. I couldn't imagine not sharing everything I've discovered and how really simple and unique to each person we could make it. The people who have shared their feedback with me, whose lives have changed, the people that have gotten sober, the people that have finally recovered and healed their sleep cycle and are passing it on to their kids so they'll have a healthy sleep cycle growing up - those are the things that make me go, okay, let's keep going. For every one person that shares their feedback, there's three more that we never hear about, so when I do get to see it, it's a gift. Even the small things, like the sessions and classes where I can see people walking away with a smile on their face and a little more oomph to their step - that can change their week, then their month, then their year.

Do everything with the confidence of the average white male. I heard that on an interview from some celebrity, maybe Zendaya or someone, and there's studies that kind of show these things. There's a Harvard study where students tell the professor what they think their grade is, and the men always gave themselves a higher grade than the women. Just because of how our society is structured, I think sometimes we have more imposter syndrome, and the messages we get are just not helpful. In regards to creating a level of success for yourself, you have to be a little bit delusional and be like, no, I have everything that I need to make this happen, and I don't need to think about the naysayers, and there's parts of me that I need to work with in regards to whatever that buildup of imposter syndrome is.

I would definitely say do your research. And that doesn't mean that you have to go read a bunch of scientific journals, necessarily. There's a lot of really amazing people sharing things through their memoirs, and there's a lot of amazing books that are coming out in a lot of different topics, but a lot of it really is intertwined because the body is a system that has interconnections. I think sometimes we don't realize that breathwork connects to the other functions of our body. I see a lot of amazing people having really amazing conversations on multiple platforms, but sometimes you can kind of tell that there's a little bit of a lack of research, and so they're sharing good things, but there's not enough in regards to where they're getting their information that's providing the full value. It doesn't mean that they have to go down a rabbit hole, but there definitely needs to be time taken out to do a little bit of research to kind of back yourself up and then have just a stronger, more solid message.

I don't think that I see enough people acknowledging the reality of the world and that as a woman, there's not a lot of space for me to exist as a woman. I think we're starting to have conversations about how the medical world is not doing enough studies in differentiating different ethnic groups by sex and gender, and so I think we need to be talking more about that, about how slight differences can support different groups. We're just kind of still stuck on this one train thing, and I think it's a little bit more complicated. In regards to my coaching, I always consider who the person in front of me is, what works for them, what doesn't work for them, what their gender is, what their background is - it's so much more complicated. One size fits all is just no longer going to work. Even in regards to my classes that are self-paced, there's always encouragement to be true to yourself, to play around with your menu of tools, and figure out what really works for you and continuing discovering yourself.

I would say inclusivity. In regards to coaching, I think it's incredibly important to have a shame-free space, because that's how the person in front of you is going to get their most amount of work done. But in addition to that, I think my other value is challenging each other, and I don't think we do that enough. We don't look at our friends who we love and value and say, hey, you're better than this, you're not serving yourself right now, you're messy, and let's get you the support that you need so that you can experience what you're looking to experience. I think those things go hand in hand because we need to have space for each other, but we also need to be like, hey, I see you, you have more potential, what do you need from me to be able to move in a better way?