Renetta Cheston, BS/MSHCAM, AADP

Renetta Cheston, BS/MSHCAM, AADP: Speaker: Renetta Cheston, Public Speaker, Life/Spiritual Strategic Coach, Holistic PractitionerWhat does being an Influential Woman mean to you?Renetta Cheston: Hi, my name is Renetta Cheston, the owner and founder of Life Success Results LLC and Refuge Women's Transition Center, which is a nonprofit. What does it mean to be an influential woman? That means you stand up for what is right for you. Cause what your convictions are, won't be someone else's convictions, cause everyone is bottled totally different. That means you allow your intuition. Your wisdom from the past, because that's the only thing that you can bring forward, is the wisdom from the past, and the things that you've learned that come along with you. That means there may be times, in order to be influential to yourself, there may be times where you will be in solitude. Where you will be walking by yourself. There will be no family, there will be no friends. There will be no one that you ever known. And you may be thrust into an environment that you don't know anything about. But that's where God wants you because you don't know anything, you can't reach for anything. That means you get to use your creativity and the wisdom you've learned from the past. And then you lean on God instead of leaning on yourself. Proverbs 3 says, lean not to our own understanding, but acknowledge God in all our ways and he'll direct our paths. The minute that you get out of your head and get into your heart. That is when you find the true wisdom to keep going forward. There will be everything in you to say, I quit. Then there, there's gonna be a subtle strength that comes out of nowhere. You're not gonna know where it came from. It just comes out and the next thing you know, you feel like Superwoman and you're like, I can do this. And it's usually the angels, your ancestors, God, risen from the past or somebody who says something to you that allows you to just keep going. It's that inner strength that you just pull out of your belly. And it allows you to keep going. Jude says, out of your belly shall flow rivers of living water. That's what I lean on so much. The reason why I'm using so much scripture, I grew up as a preacher's kid. And Didn't know that in the flow of being an influential woman, woman, I would end up leaving the church. Not only leaving the church, but standing on my own. Standing on my own to trust God completely. Basically, In a whole another country. Don't know anyone in this country. And learning life skills as I go. No one to lean on in the pool on. Just me, my angels, and my ancestors. So again, What does it mean to be an influential woman? Be willing to do the scariest thing. Even when your heart is jumping out of your chest, your mind is saying, don't do it, don't do it. Your mind wants to say, quit, get the plane ticket and go back home. But God put you in a position. that you can't do any of that. So the only thing you can do is go forward. So as you're going forward, you tell, you tell yourself, I have this. I am a peculiar people. A royal priesthood. I am supposed to keep going. When the going gets tough, that's when my anointing, that's when my strength comes out. I don't run. I was also in the military, so. We will run to the battle. So instead of running from the battle, when we hear the scream, we run to it. So an influential woman does not run away from the battle. She assesses what she sees, she looks in her toolkit to see what she has, and if she doesn't have it, she looks and sees what's in her atmosphere, just like um Dora the Explorer. Backpack, backpack. You look around and see what you have that you can pull from, and you start being the MacGyver of your own life. And you look for ideas. You look for ways to come up with solutions. And that's how you come up with new ideas, innovations. And that's how you change your life and everyone's life that meets you. And that's what it means to be an influential woman. Thank you.What's one piece of advice would you give to younger women chasing their dreams?Renetta Cheston: What advice would I give to younger women, women that are chasing their dreams? Well, One advice I would give to you is never ever lose your inner child. Your inner child would keep you so happy. As you become the woman that you set out to be. Such as. Let's just say your dream is huge and you don't know where to start. Your inner child and your inner teenager will allow you to play when you get frustrated instead of blowing up. So that allows you to take that energy. And use it constructively. And also, don't hide your anger. Anger is sacred. It's an emotion from God. What you do with that anger is you have an opportunity to get your boxing gloves. I have a pair. Get the pillow, scream into the pillow, go into the forest and scream. You can surf, you can go rock climbing. You can hit a punching bag. Do whatever you need to do to get that energy out, but don't push the anger down. I'm gonna give you a history lesson real quick so you understand why I just said that. In 1552, there was a dictionary meaning of wise person, OK? When they say a wise man, it said a wise man, a man that knows unlimited information and is willing to share. When it came to a wise woman, you know what they called her? A witch So any woman that was wise in 1552 through 1882. Guess what? They were considered to be a witch and was burned at the stake. So that mindset has still, is still going on, not just in the United States but in other countries worldwide. So when you become wise, you looked at, as a witch, you could switch the letter around and put a B in the front. And then it's to pull you down to where you need to be. Mhm. Especially if you have connotations to where society. Use a biblical term, multitude. Multitude is the way that society thinks. So, if society or the multitude of the people say, this particular group should be lowered down to who they need to be. Although, you have a bachelor's degree, a master's degree, you could have a PhD. It is to bring you down to where they need you to be because all of these are projections. See, people can only meet you where they have met themselves. And if they haven't met themselves, what they are afraid of, they attack. This is just This is just basically psychology of being human. I have a master's and a bachelor's degree in healthcare of understanding mental and public health. So when people can't control you, they use words to pull you down to where they are. But remember this, anyone that is trying to pull you down is already beneath you. So don't get off the ladder that you're climbing to deal with them. Send them nothing. Only thing you owe people on this earth is love. That's it. You don't owe them an explanation of who you are and what you're doing. What you do is you send them nothing but cleansing and purifying energy or you say, I release you in love and you keep climbing. And if they keep attacking, You, you go ahead and put up your armor, you put on Ephesians 6, the full armor of God. You love yourself in every moment and you keep going. And remember this, there will be some rooms like I went in with some of my biggest heroes that I saw. And everyone that went into the room, they came out and they ended up with big cars and all of these things. But when I got a chance to go into the room, I realized, I said, wait a minute, the only way to get this big car and all of that is to give away. The thing is, the biggest thing to me. And I was not going to give away my purity for that. Never give away the thing that is the most important to you. Thank you.