Shae Pratcher

I would have to say breaking free and not being afraid of being the blueprint. When you don't have an example, you know, maybe your parents, my grandparents, they weren't the best example. I think they did the best with what they had, but me breaking free, breaking those generational cycles so that my kids can have better and more, that's what drives me. It's about legacy, for sure. I've learned to be intentional about investing in myself, whatever that looks like, and having the drive to continue to push myself beyond what I already know. Everything I do today, all the seeds that I plant today, are going to manifest and harvest tomorrow. So I'm intentional about the seeds that I plant today so that I am happy with whatever it is that I harvest tomorrow. Being okay with being the blueprint, being different, and not blending in with everybody else has been key to my success.

My therapist was actually one of the most influential people in my life. One of the things he told me back in 2021 really changed how I see everything: everybody has a right to choose. That hit me in a way I didn't expect, especially because of my history with my father and the fact that my mother is still with him. For a long time, I carried a lot of pain and confusion around that. I wanted to understand it, fix it, make sense of it. But he helped me see something that shifted everything for me. He validated my feelings, but he also made it clear that my mother's decision to stay is her choice. I don't have to agree with it or understand it for it to be true. And then he brought it back to me: I also have a right to choose. If something isn't best for me, I don't have to stay in it. I don't need everyone to like it or approve it or even understand it. That realization was huge for me. It was one of the things that really set me out on this journey of even launching my own coaching business.

I would say, don't be afraid to be the blueprint. That's really what I'm holding onto right now. At the end of the day, everything I do today, the seeds I plant, will eventually show up in what I harvest tomorrow. So I try to be very intentional about those seeds and what I'm putting into the world, so I can be proud of what grows from it. For me, it's about being okay with standing out, being different, and not blending in with everybody else. I'm learning to embrace the fact that I don't have to follow a path that's already been laid out. I can be the one who creates it.

I think a big part of what I do is teaching people how much mindset truly matters. I often say, we behave the way we believe. If someone believes they are a loser, unworthy, or that what they have is as good as it gets, that belief quietly shapes everything they do. One of the hardest parts of this work is helping people do a real mindset reset. It takes more than information. It takes unlearning what they've always believed and what they think they already know. That can be uncomfortable. I can share my story in a way that's empowering, but I also remind people that my journey is not the exact same as everybody else's. Each person has to do their own work to break free from those internal limits. When people do make that shift, though, the results are powerful. I've seen real breakthroughs and transformation when someone finally lets go of those old beliefs and steps into something new.

Integrity is number one for me. It's what I come back to in every situation, no matter what's going on. It's about how I show up when people are watching and when they're not. For me, it carries across both my personal and professional life. I know some people separate the two, but I don't think it really works that way. At the end of the day, I'm one person. My values, what I believe in, and what I bring to the table don't change based on the setting. There are certain things I have to stand firm on. And if those things, my integrity, my values, my standards, are ever compromised, whether personally or professionally, then I have to pause and really ask myself what I'm doing and whether I'm still aligned with who I am. The impact and the purpose are more important than just trying to cut corners and get it done. It goes back to the blueprint, being willing to be the person to stand up and say, hey, this is not right, when that integrity is not aligned.