1. Ask questions.
  2. Include us.
  3. ask if we need help .don't just do it.

Have you ever looked at someone with a disability and wondered, Hmm, what kind of life can they have? Have you ever stepped in to help without first asking whether they actually needed it?

Too often, people look at a disability and only see the disability. But as someone who lives with a disability, I want you to know this: we do not want to feel helpless. We are capable of doing things in our own way. So before you do something for us, please ask if we need help.

Believe us—we are 100% capable, just like you. We may do things differently, but different does not mean less. So please, think before you act. Our lives can be challenging at times, but we are able.

Look at us as people, not as disabilities. See our strengths, our personalities, our dreams, and our abilities before you see our limitations.

People with disabilities can surprise even you. Don't underestimate us—this could be fun.

Much love,

Miss Amazing ❤️

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About the Author Carrie Davis Carrie Davis National Mentor Queen, West Virginia Ambassador and Pageant Coach (starting July 2025), Miss Amazing

I work with an organization called Miss Amazing, a pageant for girls with disabilities. I have a disability myself, so I'm in the pageant too. This is my fourth year, and in 2025, I became the national mentor queen. This pageant is a big thing for women with disabilities because it shows their worth - that even though you have a disability, you're capable of doing amazing things. After I pass my crown in July, I'll…

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