Beyond the abuse to self discovery
Understanding the complexities survivors face when leaving abusive relationships and how to offer meaningful support.
Oftentimes, the question is asked, "Why didn't you leave the abusive relationship?" The reality is that survivors have to make decisions based on their present circumstances while also thinking about the future of their children. They must consider how every decision will affect their children—not only in the moment, but for years to come.
Instead of asking, "Why didn't you leave?" perhaps the better question is, "What can I do to best support you while you figure things out?"
Brenda Brightful is a counselor, author, and advocate with 15+ years supporting healing and recovery from mental health, addiction, and domestic violence. Drawing from her own survival of abuse, she authored "Surviving an Abusive Relationship" and helps clients uncover trauma's root causes. Guided by faith, empathy and compassion, Brenda mentors others toward resilience, using effective communication and kindness to…
