“Choosing Growth When Family Can’t Go With You”
Breaking Generational Curses Through Healing and Transformation
Sometimes I can tell when God is speaking to me, not because of one big moment, but because of the repetition.
Lately, the same verses keep resurfacing. Jeremiah 29:11. Romans 12:2. Over and over again, gently reminding me that God has a plan, and that transformation requires renewal, especially of the mind.
As I sit with God, listening to worship, praying, journaling, and doing the inner work, I’m becoming more aware of how present He is in my daily life. I see His hand in the pauses, the nudges, the discomfort, and the clarity. I feel Him stretching me not to break me, but to remake me.
This season has required honesty. Real honesty.
I’ve been doing shadow work. Reading. Reflecting and sitting with uncomfortable truths. I’m part of a women’s group that prays, encourages, and constantly points me back to the Word. And through it all, God keeps showing me areas where healing isn’t optional anymore, it’s necessary.
Especially when it comes to family.
I’ve had to face the painful truth that sometimes the people who are supposed to protect you can be the ones who wound you the deepest. Family betrayal is real. Emotional wounds from parents and siblings can linger for years if left unaddressed. And yes, Scripture warned us this would happen.
I see patterns in my parents that I recognize in myself, behaviors, reactions, and coping mechanisms. And instead of ignoring that truth, I’m choosing to confront it because I don’t want to repeat what hurt me. I want to be better. I need to be better.
For my son.
For my husband.
For myself.
Breaking generational curses isn’t loud or dramatic. Most of the time, it’s quiet. It’s choosing silence instead of reacting. It’s setting boundaries without explaining yourself. It’s no longer running to family for validation, advice, or comfort when God has already provided a covering through your marriage and your relationship with Him.
I’m learning to lean on my husband instead of defaulting to old habits. I’m learning that not everyone needs access to my life, my emotions, or my decisions, even if they share my blood.
And that’s not dishonor.
That’s growth.
This season has taught me that healing doesn’t mean pretending things didn’t hurt. It means acknowledging the pain, giving it to God, and choosing transformation anyway. It means allowing God to prune relationships, habits, and mindsets that no longer serve the person He’s calling you to become.
If you’re in a season where you feel like you’re outgrowing people you love…
If you’re realizing that proximity doesn’t equal permission…
If you’re choosing peace over chaos, obedience over guilt, and growth over familiarity…
You’re not alone.
God is not removing people to punish you. Sometimes He’s doing it to protect the version of you that’s being formed.
And if it feels lonely, remember this:
Transformation almost always is.
But it’s worth it.
If this resonated with you, I’d love to hear where you are in your healing journey. You don’t have to share details, just know you’re seen, supported, and not walking alone.
