In the world of international energy infrastructure, we measure resilience in grid stability and regulatory compliance. But after 15 years in the field—from the South Caucasus to the front lines of Ukraine—I’ve learned that the most vital form of resilience is the ability to find shared humanity in the middle of chaos.

I think back to a quiet afternoon in Kabul. I was taking a coffee break with a colleague who had become a dear friend. We were from different worlds, working in a high-stakes environment where the mission's weight was always present.

Suddenly, a low-flying helicopter passed overhead, churning up a blinding cloud of silt. In seconds, we were completely blanketed. I have a "peaches and cream" complexion and brown eyes; my friend has the brownish tan of Afghanistan and striking blue eyes. But as the air settled, we realized that under that thick layer of Kabul dust, we looked the same.

We didn’t complain about the mess. We burst out laughing.

Far More Brings Us Together Than Divides Us

That laughter cleared the dust on a deeper level. In my industry, we focus on "institutional friction" and the barriers between stakeholders. We look at maps and see borders; we look at policy and see divisions.

But that afternoon was a reminder that those divisions are often surface-level silt. When you are standing in the middle of a storm, the labels of nationality and background fall away. What remains is the fundamental realization that far more brings us together than divides us. Whether in a boardroom or a field office, when you lead with curiosity instead of assumptions, you discover that our shared needs—for safety, dignity, and a bit of joy—are universal.

Resilience is a Simple Thing

Appreciating the absurd—like being turned the color of the earth by a helicopter—is an operational necessity. In high-stakes careers, we’re conditioned to focus only on the next milestone, but a shared joke is what keeps you in the game. Gratitude and a sense of humor are the internal shock absorbers that allow us to navigate volatility without losing our center. If you can find value in simple things when everything else is in flux, you are truly resilient.

Choosing Clarity

Complexity is constant; how we respond is a choice. We can’t control when the dust will rise, but we have total control over how we react once it settles. By staying open to surprises and practicing gratitude for the small moments, we find the grounded perspective needed to lead.

Next time the "dust" of your daily life feels overwhelming, look at the person standing next to you. You’ll likely find you have far more in common than you realized—and that a bit of laughter is the fastest way to clear the air.

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About the Author Ariela Shapiro Strategic Communications Advisor | Crisis, Risk & Executive Messaging for International Leaders, USG & C-Suite Executives | Building Trust & Driving Investment in High-Stakes Global Markets, Strata Grid Advisory, LLC

Complexity is constant. Clarity is a choice. Ariela Shapiro is a senior advisor sought out for her expertise in navigating energy projects and infrastructure through the heavy pressure of geopolitics and crisis. With 15 years of experience on the ground in Ukraine, Afghanistan, Central Asia, and the South Caucasus, she specializes in a specific kind of translation: taking technical and regulatory chaos and turning…

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