Working Through the Judgement of Solo Travel
Answering the most common concerns about traveling alone as a woman and why solo travel strengthens relationships.
Solo Travel Questions I Get All the Time (And My Honest Answers)
As a female Solo Travel Coach and avid solo traveler, there are two questions I hear more than any other:
1. “You don’t travel with your husband?”
Yes, I travel solo.
No, this doesn’t mean I don’t love my husband or that our relationship isn’t strong. In fact, it’s quite the opposite!
My husband respects that I need downtime to reset and refuel. He knows I thrive on adventure—and honestly, we’re not always on the same page about it. For him, a perfect weekend might be fishing, golfing, or poker with the guys. For us, having that time apart allows us to return to each other recharged, refreshed, and a better spouse.
Solo travel isn’t a sign of distance—it’s a tool for connection, both to yourself and to the people you love.
2. “Is it SAFE?”
This comes from everyone—family, friends, even strangers on flights!
Here’s my standard answer: I wouldn’t be going if I didn’t feel safe.
Let’s define “safe” for a moment:
- Did the people in Aurora, Colorado feel safe going to a Batman movie at midnight?
- Do parents feel safe sending their kids to school?
Tragedy can strike anywhere, anytime. But yes, I do my due diligence: I check Travel.State.Gov, ask questions, and practice safety wherever I go.
Some of my personal safety habits include:
- Staying aware of my environment at all times
- Asking for two hotel room keys
- Keeping ear pods at a volume where I can hear what’s happening around me
- Leaving the “bling” at home
- Never leaving a drink unattended
The Greater Challenge: Internal Judgments
For many women, the hardest part of solo travel isn’t the external questions—it’s the self-talk:
“That poor woman must be so lonely. She must not have anyone to travel with.”
As a Certified Yoga Instructor for over 25 years, I always remind women of one of the 8 limbs of yoga: Ahimsa, the practice of love and kindness toward yourself.
Don’t let anyone—even yourself—rob you of joy.
Shifting Your Mindset for Soulful Solo Travel
The key to solo travel at a soul level is reframing:
- How do you respond to questions from others?
- How do you respond to your own judgments about being alone?
Coaching offers a realistic, practical, authentic, non-judgmental, and safe space to navigate these fears. Together, we can help you:
- Release internal doubts
- Build confidence for independent adventures
- Truly embrace the freedom and joy of solo travel
