A powerful reflection on embracing dual heritage as both Black Caribbean and Black American, exploring cultural identity, ancestral traditions, and the strength found in refusing to be confined by societal expectations or categorization.
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Ife Alicto
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Leadership Facilitator/Entrepreneur, Ife Alicto The Author LLC!
Virginia Beach, VA 23456
20Years experience
4Articles published
6Awards received
Her Story
About Ife
Ife Alicto is a leadership and ethics professional, military veteran, educator, author, and speaker dedicated to developing principled leaders who serve with integrity and purpose. With nearly two decades of service in the U.S. Navy and Department of Defense, she currently serves as a Leadership Facilitator at the Naval Leadership & Ethics Center, where she helps shape the next generation of military leaders through ethics education, character development, and leadership training. Her expertise spans strategic planning, workforce development, change management, team building, process improvement, and organizational leadership, supported by certifications in Lean Six Sigma, emotional intelligence, and leadership assessment methodologies. Throughout her military career, Ife built a reputation as a trusted subject matter expert and leader, serving in aviation maintenance, logistics management, personnel development, and operational leadership roles. She has led teams through complex assignments around the world while championing initiatives focused on collaboration, accountability, and continuous improvement. Drawing on her academic background in organizational management and healthcare administration, she combines practical leadership experience with a deep commitment to ethical decision-making, empowering individuals and teams to achieve excellence while remaining grounded in strong values. Beyond her military and leadership work, Ife is an award-winning children's book author, podcaster, entrepreneur, and advocate for cultural heritage and representation. Originally from Trinidad and Tobago and raised in New York City after immigrating to the United States, she uses storytelling to celebrate identity, resilience, and belonging. Through her publishing company (Ife Alicto The Author, LLC), she creates books that introduce young readers to diverse cultures and experiences, including works inspired by her Caribbean heritage that have received international recognition. Guided by faith, service, and a passion for mentorship, Ife is committed to opening doors for future generations of leaders and inspiring others to lead with courage, gratitude, and integrity. She is also a Notary for the commonwealth of Virginia, where she gives back to her community.
Her Interview
Ten minutes with Ife
01What do you attribute your success to?
I attribute my success to my faith and my desire to keep pushing forward. Even when I feel like there's a roadblock, I just have to keep pushing because God wouldn't have me here for no reason. My mother is a huge part of why I push so hard. She came to America from Trinidad with me and my sister, and she struggled a lot here. She passed away when I was young, so she didn't get to see me or my sister, who's a school teacher, make it to any level of success. She didn't see the seeds that she sowed, which is us. We are a seed. Her faith in making the right decision to come to America with us, even though nothing held her back and she struggled tremendously, is what drives me. A lot of my success is based off of what my mother did for us. She's the reason why we are what we are, because she had faith. So I keep pushing forward, even without guidance, because I know God has a purpose for me being here, and I'm honoring my mother's sacrifice and courage.
02What’s the best career advice you’ve ever received?
The best career advice I've ever received is that pride is the bottom of all great mistakes. Don't let your pride get in the way of making decisions that are ethical and right. I actually use this quote when teaching my ethics classes. What it means to me is that ethics is doing the right thing at the right time for the right reason. Sometimes, you can't let pride or ego take over and cause you to make a decision that affects you and everybody else negatively. Instead, you need to make decisions with a sound mind, setting aside your pride to do what's truly right.
03What advice would you give to young women entering your industry?
My advice to young women entering the military is: don't let anybody take away your voice. It's still going to always be a man's world, but you have to keep pushing to be heard. Keep building your strength to lift things that may be heavy, or have the courage to ask for help, but always say, 'I got this, I just need your help, just follow me.' Don't let anyone lead you if you already know what you're doing. If you don't know what you're doing, yes, be willing to be led and learn. But if you know what you're doing, don't let them take that power away from you. You may not be as strong or as outspoken as some individuals, but that doesn't mean you should let anyone diminish your capabilities or your voice.
04What are the biggest challenges or opportunities in your field right now?
The biggest challenge in my field is dealing with biases and being different. Sometimes, even though we say there's equal opportunity, people tend to like being around people they know or who look like them. The biggest challenge is being the only one in the room that looks like you. In my job, which is mostly male-oriented, the percentage of females is less than 7%. But knowing that you're capable and you've been found capable to do the job, you just have to keep pushing through. Sometimes people may not look like you, act like you, or talk like you, but you can't be nobody else but you. Don't change yourself because you're not the same as everyone else. Your differences matter. Your opinion matters. It's not about you, it's about the next person coming in. You're opening the door for someone else. Even though it may be hard for you, it will make it easier for the next person, and the next person, and soon there will be opportunities out there for everyone. But if you don't allow yourself to push through, those doors won't open.
05What values are most important to you in your work and personal life?
The most important value to me in both my work and personal life is faith. Faith in my family and faith in my work life, because I am a Black woman, and people remind you that you are Black. I feel like because you look a certain way, some people think you shouldn't be in certain spaces or do certain things. Sometimes that gets in my head and I feel like an imposter, but I have to have faith that God wouldn't put me there if I wasn't supposed to be there. So I tell myself: don't let nobody take away your faith. That's my core value. Even when someone says something that makes me doubt myself, I remember that God has a purpose for me being in that space, and I keep pushing forward with faith.
Her Content Hub
Articles by Ife
I Am Both: Navigating Two Worlds as a Black Caribbean and Black American Woman
Embracing Dual Heritage: One Woman's Journey Between Two Black Worlds
The topic may sound controversial, but I feel compelled to speak on it: I am both Black Caribbean and Black American.
As I sit in my kitchen preparing my son's favorite meal, I reflect on a conversation I had recently. Someone shared their perspective on the differences between Black Caribbeans and Black Americans, suggesting that our intuition is a guiding force rooted in our ancestral history. That idea resonated with me because my mother always emphasized the importance of trusting my intuition.
In our household, we practiced traditions that connected us to our roots. We would sage our home, pray together, and engage in rituals that honored our heritage. These practices, often rooted in faith and passed down through generations, grounded us. Even today, I light candles, pray with my children, and actively rebuke negative energies.
During another conversation, a friend pointed out certain cultural differences: Caribbean people are often encouraged to "keep their heads down" and avoid drawing attention to themselves, while Americans are encouraged to speak their minds. This dichotomy is both fascinating and troubling. My mother always taught me that, regardless of where you come from, you are Black. You are a Black woman, a Black child, and the world will often see you through that lens. Unfortunately, people frequently judge based on ignorance rather than understanding.
Yet, I refuse to let that ignorance hold me back. Speaking my mind has sometimes led to missed opportunities and unexpected challenges, but I cannot silence my voice. I have often found myself confronting injustice, inspired by the rich history of Black Americans who fought for dignity, equality, and change.
My upbringing in Harlem, New York—often regarded as the mecca of Black culture—shaped my worldview. I remember spending countless afternoons at the Schomburg Library, immersing myself in Black history. I attended Harlem Week, where my mother volunteered as a vendor, and participated in community events that celebrated our culture and heritage.
I vividly recall the day Nelson Mandela visited Harlem and the excitement that buzzed through the air. I may not have fully understood the significance of the moment at the time, but I felt the weight of history and the importance of activism. My mother instilled in me the value of speaking up and fighting for justice, and I carry those lessons with me to this day.
Now, as I serve my country, I find fulfillment in giving back to America—a place that has given me so much. Yet, I often feel caught between two worlds. In neither space do I feel completely accepted. Still, I stand firm in my identity as a Black woman. While some may view my dual heritage as controversial or confusing, I embrace it wholeheartedly.
I recognize that my experiences may differ from those of others and that I am not entirely defined by one identity or the other. I am both Black American and Black Caribbean, and that duality enriches my life. I stand proud, representing both cultures and contributing to the broader narrative of Black identity.
This journey has taught me the importance of resilience and self-acceptance. My voice is my own, and it carries the weight of my history, my heritage, and my hopes for the future. Embracing both sides of my identity not only empowers me, but also enriches the conversations we have about race, culture, and belonging.
In a world that often seeks to categorize and define us, I choose to stand in my truth, unapologetically embracing both of my worlds.
I am both.
And that is my strength.
A reflective personal essay on two decades of military service, exploring lessons learned about humility, resilience, and the transformative power of authentic leadership and human connection.
Pride Is the Bottom of All Great Mistakes, But You Cannot Take Away Something That’s Already in You
From Doubt to Purpose: A Twenty-Year Journey of Humility, Resilience, and Service
As I reflect on my two decades of service, I often ponder what I would want someone to know about me. I joined the military at the age of 24 after delaying my enlistment for a year. When I finally took that step, I questioned my decision, wondering, What have I done? This isn't for me.
I'm immensely grateful for my Recruit Division Commander, a Machinist's Mate Second Class, who asked me, "What are you going to do when you get out?" Her words made me realize the importance of perseverance. Quitting would only prolong my journey and limit my potential.
Navigating My Early Days in the Military
Navigating my early days in the military was challenging. I had to learn to balance pride and humility, and I discovered that pride is often at the root of many mistakes. A chaplain I was temporarily assigned to during my first deployment shared that wisdom with me, and I have carried those words ever since.
Growing up in Harlem as a Trinidadian, I understand how pride and ego can shape a person's identity. In a community where pride is often worn as a badge of honor, I had to confront the reality that humility can be an even greater strength.
The Loss of My Mother
The loss of my mother added another layer to my understanding of pride and humility. Losing her at a young age taught me that while pride can fuel our ambitions, it can also blind us to the support available around us. Her passing forced me to mature quickly and reflect on what truly matters in life.
I struggled with humility for a long time, and even now, I wrestle with it daily. However, I have come to realize that you cannot take away what is already within you. My drive, resilience, and ability to confront challenges head-on are intrinsic parts of who I am.
Being Honest and Straightforward Is a Double-Edged Sword
Along this journey, I also learned that being honest and straightforward can be a double-edged sword. I am not a "yes" person, and my authenticity sometimes creates confusion or discomfort. But I believe that truthfulness is a gift. It allows me to build genuine connections and foster open dialogue.
I have often found that the people who appreciate honesty are the very ones who seek growth, even when it is uncomfortable.
I am deeply thankful for my family, who have been my backbone, and for the friends who stood by me through thick and thin. I also acknowledge those who did not see me or support me when I needed it most. Their absence pushed me to grow stronger and become better, even though the experience was painful at times. Every experience, whether uplifting or difficult, has shaped my character and strengthened my resolve.
My Hope Is to Support Others
As I look ahead, my hope is to support others who may be overlooked, just as I have been at times. I want to instill hope and confidence in those who show initiative, helping them navigate their own challenges and recognize their potential.
It is essential to remember that everyone has the capacity to contribute positively, and sometimes all it takes is a little encouragement and guidance.
My career has been a journey of catching dreams, and I want to help others do the same. I aspire to create an environment where people feel valued, seen, and empowered to pursue their aspirations. Together, we can break down barriers and lift one another up, transforming pride into a collective strength rather than a stumbling block.
Thank you.
Discover Amara's inspiring journey as a brave immigrant girl navigating a new country with courage and resilience. This heartwarming story celebrates cultural identity, friendship, and the transformative power of embracing one's unique heritage.
What does your name mean! History Meets heritage!
A Young Immigrant's Journey of Courage, Identity, and Belonging in a New World
My story begins with Amara, a brave immigrant girl whose journey inspired me deeply. In her tale, she leaves her homeland in search of new opportunities, facing challenges and embracing her unique identity. Amara's courage resonates with me, reminding me of my own path as an immigrant girl with dreams.
I became a storyteller to paint a beautiful landscape of experiences that reflect both struggles and triumphs. Through my writing, I celebrate resilience and the richness of diverse cultures. My journey mirrors Amara's, filled with hope and a desire to share my story with the world.
However, revealing my own story has been frightening. The fear of exposing my vulnerabilities and wondering whether I truly belong has lingered. Yet, I know I am safe, and my mother can rest in peace knowing that I carry her legacy forward.
I invite you to follow me on TikTok and Instagram, where I share my journey and the stories of others. You can also find my book on Amazon, supporting the dream I nurture every day. I carry my past and my heritage with pride, bridging the gap between my roots and the future I am building in this country.
Together, we can show that every immigrant journey is filled with beauty, courage, and the power of dreams. Your support means everything as we share our stories and inspire one another.
Amara's Daring Dreamscape: Brave Immigrant Girl!
Once upon a time, in a bright and colorful land, there lived a little girl named Amara. She had big, sparkly eyes and a heart full of dreams. One sunny morning, Amara's parents gathered her and her sister for a surprise.
"We're going on a big adventure!" they announced with wide smiles.
"Where are we going?" Amara asked, bouncing with excitement.
"We're moving to a new country called America!" her dad said.
Amara's heart raced with a mix of excitement and nervousness. America sounded so far away, and she imagined it would be a magical place full of wonders and surprises.
When they arrived, Amara looked up at the tall buildings that seemed to touch the sky. The streets buzzed with cars, and people spoke in a melody she didn't understand. Everything felt so new and different.
At her new school, Amara met other children with simple names like Lucy and Jake. But Amara's name was special; it meant "strength" in her family's language.
"Mommy, can I just be called 'Amy'?" Amara whispered, feeling shy about her unique name.
Her mother knelt down, looked Amara in the eyes, and said, "Sweetheart, your name is a gift. It means strength. You have that strength inside you, and you should always be proud of who you are."
As time went on, Amara realized just how special her name was. She learned that her parents had traveled a long way and faced many challenges to give her and her sister a brighter future.
Every day at school was a new adventure, but it also came with struggles. Sometimes, Amara felt lonely and wished she could fit in. The other children played games she didn't know, and the lunchroom was filled with unfamiliar foods. But deep down, Amara remembered her mother's words about strength.
One day, Amara decided to invite her classmates to a special picnic at the park. She brought homemade treats from her culture, including sweet pastries and colorful fruit. At first, the other children were hesitant, unsure of what to expect. But one brave girl named Lucy took a bite and smiled.
"This is delicious!" she exclaimed, and soon everyone was eager to try Amara's treats. They laughed and played together, discovering the joy of sharing their different cultures.
As the sun set on that beautiful day, Amara felt a wave of happiness. She realized that although the journey had been difficult, it had also brought new friendships and experiences. Her name, Amara, reminded her of her bravery and the strength she possessed.
From that day on, Amara embraced her name and her unique story. She learned that even when things were tough, she had the power to create connections and share her beautiful heritage. And so, Amara's big adventure continued, filled with laughter, friendship, and the courage to be herself in a new world.
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Amara's Daring Dreamscape: Brave Immigrant Girl!
In a bustling city full of dreams and challenges, Amara, a young girl with a heart full of hope, embarked on a journey that would transform her life. Leaving behind her homeland, she faced the unknown with courage and resilience. Each day was an adventure filled with new experiences—learning a different language, making friends from various cultures, and discovering the beauty of her new surroundings.
Amara encountered obstacles along the way, but her determination never wavered. With every challenge, she grew stronger, finding joy in life's small victories. Her story is one of perseverance and the unwavering spirit of an immigrant girl. It illustrates the strength it takes to carve out a place in a new world while holding on to the dreams of her past.
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Here is a rewritten summary with the corrected title, "Amara's Daring Dreamscape: Brave Immigrant Girl!", tailored for a young child's understanding.
Amara's Daring Dreamscape: Brave Immigrant Girl!
This is the story of a brave young girl named Amara. Amara left her home and came to a brand-new, busy city to follow her dreams. It wasn't easy—she had to learn a new language and make new friends from many different places.
But Amara was strong and never gave up. Each day was an exciting adventure, and she discovered many wonderful new things in her new home. Amara faced challenges, but she continued to grow braver and stronger.
Amara's story shows how much courage it takes to start a new life in an unfamiliar place. Even though it was difficult, she held tightly to the dreams she carried from home. Amara's daring journey teaches us that with bravery, determination, and kindness, we can overcome challenges, celebrate who we are, and achieve wonderful things.
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