Shelly Dreyer

By Shelly Dreyer, Attorney and 2024-25 Missouri Bar President

When I was building my career, I had never heard the term "imposter syndrome." All I knew was I often felt like an imposter, especially around more experienced professionals. I couldn't let them see that though. I tried my best to look like I had it all together, but inside I was struggling with self-doubt, a lack of confidence, and anxiety.

Here I am, 27 years later, with numerous professional victories under my belt and awards lining my office walls—my business partner jokingly calls it my "Shelly shrine." But I still struggle sometimes with the feeling of not being good enough.

I felt that way leading up to being sworn in as president of The Missouri Bar. One of my primary goals in this role is to promote well-being in the profession, so I decided it was time to practice what I preach and openly discuss my own struggle with imposter syndrome.

I've realized that filling my wall with accolades wasn't to impress others, but to try to convince myself that I really am qualified and deserving of my success.

As I speak with professional women across various industries, I've learned that I'm not alone in feeling this way. Imposter syndrome is remarkably common among high-achieving women. But why? Why do we—women with advanced education, proven track records, and clear evidence of success—struggle with such persistent feelings of inadequacy?

A 2019 study describes imposter syndrome as affecting "high achieving individuals who despite their objective successes, fail to internalize their accomplishments and have persistent self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud or imposter."

According to Valerie Young of the Imposter Syndrome Institute, there are five main types of imposter syndrome:

1. The Perfectionist — finds it difficult to delegate and may obsess over every detail

2. The Expert — won't pursue opportunities unless they meet every single qualification

3. The Natural Genius — used to achieving success effortlessly, and self-confidence crumbles when faced with challenges

4. The Soloist — feels they must accomplish everything independently

5. The Superhuman — experiences guilt when taking breaks or setting boundaries

Most of us recognize ourselves in one or more of these categories—or know other professional women who do.

Many industries attract driven, high-achieving women, but they also create environments ripe for imposter syndrome. We strive for perfection and never want to appear vulnerable. From our education through our careers, we're constantly evaluated through performance metrics, client satisfaction, and peer recognition. This environment can lead to internalizing unrealistic expectations and developing persistent feelings of inadequacy.

I've witnessed myself and other successful women attribute our achievements to luck or external factors rather than our own capabilities. We downplay our accomplishments, overwork ourselves, or avoid new challenges due to fear of failure.

The consequences of imposter syndrome can be severe, contributing to burnout, anxiety, and depression—issues already prevalent among professional women. It can also limit career advancement, as we may shy away from seeking promotions, leadership roles, or high-visibility projects.

It's time we normalize conversations about imposter syndrome in professional settings. Discussing our own struggles not only helps others realize they're not alone, but it also empowers women to identify and address these limiting beliefs.

Some strategies I've used to combat my imposter syndrome include practicing self-compassion, seeking out mentors, celebrating successes and achievements, and building a strong support network. I've learned to practice self-compassion by allowing myself to make mistakes without harsh self-criticism. While I still wrestle with imposter syndrome occasionally, these methods have significantly reduced those feelings.

Professional women also have access to various support resources, including counseling services, mentorship programs, and professional development opportunities. Reaching out for help demonstrates strength and wisdom, not weakness.

My hope in sharing this story is that other professional women—especially those early in their careers—realize they're not alone and that they deserve every recognition and opportunity they receive. Together, we can pull back the curtain on imposter syndrome and build genuine confidence in ourselves and our peers.

You belong at that table. You've earned your seat. It's time to truly believe it.

Shelly Dreyer is an accomplished attorney and the 2024-25 President of The Missouri Bar, where she champions well-being initiatives for legal professionals. She is passionate about supporting women in leadership and breaking down barriers to professional success.