From Broken Beginnings to Building Futures
From Trauma to Transformation: How Loss Became the Foundation for Leading Others Through Theirs
Some stories begin with privilege.
Mine began with loss.
I was five years old when my father died. At an age when most children are learning how to feel safe in the world, I was learning how quickly it could be taken away. That moment cracked something inside me — something I didn’t have the language to name until much later. Grief doesn’t always look like sadness in children. Sometimes it looks like anger, withdrawal, and rebellion.
By fifteen, I had been kicked out of school.
I was labeled “troubled,” sent to alternative school, and quietly written off by systems that didn’t understand trauma — they only knew how to punish its symptoms. What no one saw was a little girl still trying to survive a world that took her father too soon.
For years, I lived inside that story:
The girl who didn’t fit.
The student who fell behind.
The statistic everyone expected to become permanent.
But somewhere along the way, something shifted.
I didn’t just want to survive — I wanted to understand.
That hunger led me to psychology. I became obsessed with the why behind human behavior. Why do children act out when they’re hurting? Why do some people give up while others rise? Why does trauma shape destiny for some but fuel transformation for others?
Going back to school as a single parent, working long shifts just to stay afloat, was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. There were nights I studied while exhausted, and days I wondered if I was too far behind to ever catch up. But with every course I completed, something in me healed.
When I earned my bachelor’s degree in psychology, it wasn’t just an academic achievement — it was personal redemption. I was no longer the girl who was expelled. I was a woman who understood trauma, resilience, and the science of human strength.
That is when Youth Lead Mentoring was born.
Youth Lead Mentoring is not just a nonprofit — it is my testimony in action. It exists for the kids who feel unseen, mislabeled, and misunderstood. The teens who have experienced loss, instability, poverty, or emotional abandonment and are quietly spiraling inside systems that don’t know how to catch them.
We don’t just mentor — we restore identity.
We teach young people that their past does not disqualify their future. We provide emotional support, leadership development, academic encouragement, and community connection. We don’t ask them to pretend their trauma didn’t happen — we help them learn how to rise in spite of it.
Because I know what it feels like to be a child in pain.
I know what it’s like to sit in a classroom feeling invisible.
To carry grief that nobody sees.
To be judged by behavior instead of understood by your story.
And I also know what it feels like to reclaim your narrative.
My life is proof that detours do not cancel destiny.
That trauma does not get the final word.
That the girl who was once pushed out of school can grow into a woman who builds institutions to pull others back in.
This is what it means to lead from lived experience.
My work is not theoretical — it is personal.
My leadership is not positional — it is purposeful.
And my mission is simple:
No child should feel disposable.
No dream should die in silence.
And no past should be powerful enough to erase someone’s future.
If I could lose my father, lose my footing, and still find my way back to purpose — so can the youth we serve.
And that is why I lead.
