Are you Ready to Break the Code?
Breaking Free from the Emotional Leash: Why We Need More Bridget Everetts in the World
What is the code?
The code is an emotional leash that chokes us, limiting our freedom to fully identify as the women we are and want to become. It is made up of beliefs, thoughts, and emotions stored in our brains that keep us stuck - preventing us from making decisions or changes that would open us to our full potential.
The code is fear.
It holds us back from being our true selves and, ultimately, from experiencing happiness.
Greek goddesses represent women who do not live under the spell of the code. We are drawn to them because, in aggregate, they represent the whole empowered woman - reflecting beauty, love, sensuality, ferocity, compassion, fearlessness, wisdom, intuition, and more. Greek goddesses are free from the code.
A Real-Life Greek Goddess
I feel as though I have encountered a real-life Greek goddess. If you have ever seen Bridget Everett, the actress and cabaret star, you have seen a woman who could be the lovechild of Venus, the goddess of love, and Athena, the goddess of war.
There is no emotional leash on Bridget Everett. She is the embodiment of female power and expression - sensuality, humor, vulnerability, beauty, strength, and, above all, authenticity.
I find her deeply inspiring.
In her live show, whose opening number is "F$#k Sh*t Up," she warns the audience that that is exactly what she is there to do - and she does. She is intentional and aware that she is disrupting our sense of what is acceptable, willing to offend, but with so much levity and lightheartedness that you cannot help but laugh along.
Think of a female disruptor in a male-dominated system. Don't we all want to f$#k sh*t up?
There is nothing private about private parts in her act. She blows that entire concept wide open. She has even labeled herself a "gynecological wonder," and invites people in her audience - young, old, all genders - to stand and sing along with her.
There is a YouTube clip of her putting a microphone up to a young man and having him sing that he will "keep his d**k in his pants." It is hilarious to watch him bravely go along with it, as though he had no choice. She is very persuasive.
On stage, Bridget wears the skimpiest outfit that barely leaves anything to the imagination - not to abase herself, not to intimidate, and not for praise. At one point, she sat on a bar stool in a tiny sequined dress and wept while singing a love song to her sister, who had passed away from cancer. She made us feel every human emotion possible in a two-hour show.
Meeting Bridget Everett
After the show, I was able to meet her and wanted to thank her for an extraordinary experience. (I was able to go backstage because my musician husband is friends with her band members.)
She was casually dressed in Birkenstocks. The sequins were gone.
I did not know what to expect, but what I encountered was a mild, reserved, soft-spoken woman who, outside of her stage presence, blended into the crowd. I introduced myself and told her I thought she was a force of life - powerful, authentic, and deeply inspiring.
As I spoke, she looked directly at me with gentle eyes, absorbing every word. I could tell my gratitude meant something to her, and I loved that. It was a beautiful exchange.
Bridget Everett is a brand, but she is also a very real woman. An intentional life like hers does not come from someone trapped inside the code. It comes from someone using her unique voice, strength, passion, and talent - her wholeness - to live free.
