Dragon Slayers & Professional Sexy: A Love Letter to Great Management
Finding Your Dragon Slayer: The Manager Who Truly Invests in Your Success
It's rare that a veteran Amazonian like me gets genuinely surprised...in a good way. Yet there I was last Thursday, battle armor ready, preparing to defend my mentee in a meeting from what I assumed would be another corporate dragon—only to find myself face-to-face with that rarest of creatures: a truly invested manager. GASP!
This manager didn't breathe fire. Instead, they came equipped with validation, support, and genuine intention toward my mentee's professional growth. They had clearly done their homework, understanding my mentee's strengths, aspirations, and areas for development. In an environment where performance reviews often feel like checking boxes and "we'll look into that" is a common refrain, this manager's genuine engagement was a welcome change.
The Slack message I fired off to my mentee afterward tells it all:
“OMG! I kinda love your manager. He genuinely wants to make sure you have all the support you need to be awesome. We've agreed on your areas of growth. He's asked to have monthly check-ins with me about you. (Unheard of—in a really good way!!!) We can discuss more when you want.”
How many of you have experienced this kind of transformative leadership?
For those who haven't, what would it mean for your career if you had a manager who invested in you this deeply?
Reflecting on that meeting transported me back over a decade to Mike, my very own Dragon Slayer. At a company far, far away, this brilliant, perceptive soul set the bar for all managers to come—which, I'll admit, frustrated me to no end at first! There I was, determined to prove I could conquer every challenge solo, wielding independence like a shield. Having been run over, burned at the stake, and offered as tribute by terrible managers in the past, I had convinced myself that professional survival meant going it alone—a myth that Mike would eventually help me unlearn, one act of genuine support at a time.
Picture this: me, standing in the middle of the company cafeteria, having an all-out argument about his attempts to help me. I declared, "Wonder Woman flew alone! I don't need your help!” To which Mike—brilliant, perceptive Mike—delivered what might be the most professionally sexy line I’ve ever heard: "Yeah, but she still needed someone to fuel her jet. Let me be your ground crew and clear your runway."
I hereby declare "professional sexy" is now officially a thing! It's that spine-tingling moment when your manager sees your full potential, earns your trust like it's precious metal, and fights for your success like it's their personal mission. No HR warnings necessary—we're talking pure, unadulterated professional chemistry here!
The transformation wasn't instant or easy. Like a warrior lowering their shield, I gradually shed the protective armor built from years of bad manager experiences. Mike proved different from the hall-monitor managers of my past. He wasn't hunting for infractions or plotting career sabotage. He earned the title "Dragon Slayer" from my peers who watched him in action. In our world, dragons weren't mythical beasts—they were the very real challenges that threatened to derail careers: toxic politics, impossible deadlines, resource constraints, and those particularly obstinate stakeholders who seemed determined to block progress at every turn. You know the ones...
Mike was strategic, supportive, collaborative, and professionally ferocious when these "dragons" came for me. He'd draw his managerial sword without hesitation, combining political savvy with genuine advocacy to slay whatever obstacles blocked my runway. Whether it was defending my projects in leadership meetings, securing critical resources, or strategically navigating corporate politics, Mike proved himself a true Dragon Slayer time and time again. Our partnership wasn't just successful; it was legendary! He made me believe in great managers again.
Speaking of legends, imagine if we had a reality show for managers—"The Bachelor: Dragon Slayer Edition." Hear me out! Instead of roses, employees would award dragon scales to the most "professionally sexy" managers they've ever encountered.
Who would get your dragon scale, and why?
As you ponder your own Dragon Slayer candidates, let's break down what makes a manager truly stand out in this realm of professional chemistry. After all, not every manager who avoids breathing fire qualifies for full Dragon Slayer status. It takes a special blend of skills, attitude, and actions to earn that title.
So, what exactly are we looking for in our ideal Dragon Slayer?
Drawing from the best of Mike, my mentee's manager, and other exemplary leaders I’ve worked with, I've compiled a checklist. Think of it as your field guide to spotting (or becoming) a professionally sexy manager in the wild. Without further ado, I give you:
The Professional Sexy Manager Checklist
- They're talent whisperers, not talent suppressors—Amplify individual strengths and ignite potential rather than dimming others’ light to shine brighter.
- They're runway clearers, not roadblock builders—Eliminate obstacles before they become barriers, paving clear paths rather than constructing hurdles out of insecurity.
- They're dragon slayers, not dragon breeders—Face challenges head-on as steadfast allies instead of becoming the very dragons they should be fighting.
- They're success cultivators, not credit takers—Recognize their success lives in their team’s achievements; no spotlight-stealing required.
- They're trust builders, not confidence demolishers—Fortify words with consistent actions that build trust instead of empty promises that erode confidence.
While these characteristics paint a picture of Dragon Slayer excellence, turning them into reality requires reflection, deliberate action, and practice. Here are some questions paired with immediate actions you can take to strengthen your dragon-slaying abilities or cultivate them in others:
Forging Dragon Slayers: Reflection Points & Battle Plans
- What's your "professionally sexy" management moment?
- Action: Write it down and share it with your manager or team. Positive reinforcement can encourage more of these moments.
- Who's your Dragon Slayer, and why?
- Action: Reach out to them this week. Express your gratitude and share how their support impacted your career.
- What's the most challenging "dragon" you've slain in your career, and what did you learn?
- Action: Document your "dragon-slaying" process and share it as a case study with your team or mentees.
- What dragons are currently circling your team?
- Action: Identify the top three "dragons" threatening your team's success. Brainstorm strategies to slay them, involving both your manager and teammates.
- How can you level up from manager to Dragon Slayer?
- Action: Choose one trait from the "Professional Sexy Manager Checklist" to focus on this month. Set specific goals to improve in this area.
- How can you foster a more "professionally sexy" environment in your workplace?
- Action: Organize a team discussion on what "professionally sexy" means in your context and create an action plan to cultivate these qualities.
So, whether you're a manager aspiring to Dragon Slayer status or an employee searching for your professional match, remember great management isn't just about metrics and deadlines. It's about creating that professionally sexy environment where trust flourishes, dragons fear to tread, and runways are always clear for takeoff. Who's ready to slay some dragons?
Learn and Be Curious!
