Lessons from a Lifetime of Service:
How service, faith, and resilience transformed my military career and inspired a lifetime of purpose-driven leadership.
Service, Faith, and Resilience: The Foundation of My Leadership
People often ask me what prepared me to overcome life's greatest challenges. My answer is simple: service, faith, and resilience.
I have experienced homelessness, racial and gender discrimination, a life-altering disability, and the uncertainty that comes with transitioning from military to civilian life. None of those experiences defined me. Instead, they shaped me into the leader, veteran advocate, and woman I am today.
A Foundation Built on Adversity
I was born in Baltimore, Maryland, the youngest child of a career Army father and a homemaker mother. Growing up in a military family meant moving often and adapting to new places, cultures, and people. My father believed in discipline, excellence, and hard work. Unfortunately, his gambling addiction eventually cost our family its stability, leaving my mother and me homeless. That experience planted within me a deep desire to build a life rooted in purpose, security, and service.
Rather than allowing adversity to determine my future, I chose to follow in my father's footsteps and enlist in the United States Army.
It wasn't an easy road.
Throughout my military career, I faced racial and sexual discrimination, periods of instability, and eventually a debilitating medical condition that left me unable to walk for months. Yet every obstacle became another opportunity to grow stronger. After years of perseverance, I retired as a Sergeant First Class after serving 26 years.
Today, I continue serving those who have served our nation as a Legal Administrative Specialist with the Department of Veterans Affairs. Helping veterans and their families receive the benefits they have earned is more than a job for me—it is a calling. Every day, I have the opportunity to provide hope, guidance, and practical assistance to men and women navigating life after military service.
Excellence Creates Opportunities
Looking back, one of the greatest lessons I learned in the Army is that hard work rarely goes unnoticed.
Early in my military career, I was selected for advanced dental training because a leader recognized my commitment and work ethic. At the time, I was one of the most junior Soldiers in the program, yet someone believed in my potential before I fully recognized it myself.
That experience reinforced a lesson I have carried throughout my life:
Excellence creates opportunities.
Over the years, I have also gained a profound appreciation for what it truly means to be a hero.
Heroes are not defined solely by medals or extraordinary acts of courage.
I served alongside men and women who quietly sacrificed birthdays, holidays, family milestones, and, in many cases, their own safety to protect others. Even after leaving the military, I continue to see veterans volunteering, mentoring, and serving their communities with little expectation of recognition.
To me, a hero is anyone who willingly sacrifices for the benefit of someone else.
Leadership Is Far More Than Giving Orders
The military also shaped my leadership philosophy.
Leadership is far more than giving orders.
It requires strategic thinking, adaptability, collaboration, and the ability to remain calm when circumstances are uncertain. Every mission teaches you that no one succeeds alone. The strongest leaders communicate clearly, empower their teams, and trust others with responsibility.
Those principles became especially important during one of the most difficult seasons of my life.
In 1996, during a military training exercise, I experienced a severe medical emergency that resulted in complications following treatment. I lost the ability to walk and spent months wondering whether my military career had come to an end.
There were moments when discouragement threatened to overwhelm me.
Yet my faith reminded me that setbacks are often temporary, even when they feel permanent.
That experience taught me several lessons that continue to guide my life today.
- Strengthen your foundation before adversity arrives. My faith has always been the anchor that steadies me when circumstances become uncertain.
- Establish a clear vision for your future. If you cannot see where you are going, it becomes much easier to surrender when obstacles appear.
- Invest in people. No meaningful accomplishment is achieved alone. Strong leaders encourage, develop, and communicate with those around them.
- Set realistic goals while refusing to quit. My military career began with the simple goal of completing four years of service. As I grew, my goals grew with me.
- Learn to delegate. Leadership is not about doing everything yourself. It is about recognizing the strengths of others and trusting them with responsibility.
Leadership During Times of Crisis
When I think about leadership during times of crisis, I believe preparation is just as important as response.
Every organization should anticipate unexpected challenges. Economic downturns, natural disasters, public health emergencies, and organizational change are inevitable. Effective leaders prepare by developing contingency plans, communicating clearly, and protecting the people who depend on them.
If there is one movement I would inspire, it would be this:
I would encourage every person to identify a need within their community and commit themselves to making a genuine difference.
Imagine what our communities would look like if everyone embraced one cause and faithfully served it.
The collective impact would be extraordinary.
Resilience Is Choosing Hope
Throughout my life, one person has inspired me more consistently than anyone else—my mother.
She demonstrated unwavering strength in the face of unimaginable hardship. Even after receiving devastating health news, she chose faith over fear and encouraged me to remain focused on my goals instead of worrying about her circumstances.
Her example taught me that resilience is not pretending life is easy.
Resilience is choosing hope despite life's difficulties.
My journey has convinced me that our greatest challenges often become the foundation for our greatest purpose.
Every setback has prepared me to better serve others.
Every obstacle has strengthened my faith.
Every hardship has deepened my compassion.
Success is not measured by how few storms we experience.
It is measured by our willingness to continue serving, leading, and believing long after the storm has passed.
