Pride Is the Bottom of All Great Mistakes, But You Cannot Take Away Something That’s Already in You
From Doubt to Purpose: A Twenty-Year Journey of Humility, Resilience, and Service
As I reflect on my two decades of service, I often ponder what I would want someone to know about me. I joined the military at the age of 24 after delaying my enlistment for a year. When I finally took that step, I questioned my decision, wondering, What have I done? This isn't for me.
I'm immensely grateful for my Recruit Division Commander, a Machinist's Mate Second Class, who asked me, "What are you going to do when you get out?" Her words made me realize the importance of perseverance. Quitting would only prolong my journey and limit my potential.
Navigating My Early Days in the Military
Navigating my early days in the military was challenging. I had to learn to balance pride and humility, and I discovered that pride is often at the root of many mistakes. A chaplain I was temporarily assigned to during my first deployment shared that wisdom with me, and I have carried those words ever since.
Growing up in Harlem as a Trinidadian, I understand how pride and ego can shape a person's identity. In a community where pride is often worn as a badge of honor, I had to confront the reality that humility can be an even greater strength.
The Loss of My Mother
The loss of my mother added another layer to my understanding of pride and humility. Losing her at a young age taught me that while pride can fuel our ambitions, it can also blind us to the support available around us. Her passing forced me to mature quickly and reflect on what truly matters in life.
I struggled with humility for a long time, and even now, I wrestle with it daily. However, I have come to realize that you cannot take away what is already within you. My drive, resilience, and ability to confront challenges head-on are intrinsic parts of who I am.
Being Honest and Straightforward Is a Double-Edged Sword
Along this journey, I also learned that being honest and straightforward can be a double-edged sword. I am not a "yes" person, and my authenticity sometimes creates confusion or discomfort. But I believe that truthfulness is a gift. It allows me to build genuine connections and foster open dialogue.
I have often found that the people who appreciate honesty are the very ones who seek growth, even when it is uncomfortable.
I am deeply thankful for my family, who have been my backbone, and for the friends who stood by me through thick and thin. I also acknowledge those who did not see me or support me when I needed it most. Their absence pushed me to grow stronger and become better, even though the experience was painful at times. Every experience, whether uplifting or difficult, has shaped my character and strengthened my resolve.
My Hope Is to Support Others
As I look ahead, my hope is to support others who may be overlooked, just as I have been at times. I want to instill hope and confidence in those who show initiative, helping them navigate their own challenges and recognize their potential.
It is essential to remember that everyone has the capacity to contribute positively, and sometimes all it takes is a little encouragement and guidance.
My career has been a journey of catching dreams, and I want to help others do the same. I aspire to create an environment where people feel valued, seen, and empowered to pursue their aspirations. Together, we can break down barriers and lift one another up, transforming pride into a collective strength rather than a stumbling block.
Thank you.
