Success Isn't Reserved for the Lucky
From adversity to achievement: how resilience and determination can transform your life regardless of where you begin.
Your Starting Point Does Not Determine Your Finish Line
When people look at my life today, they often see the title, the career, the business I've helped build, and the success I've achieved. What they don't see is where I started.
I was raised by two incredibly strong women: my disabled mother and my retired grandmother. We lived together in a multigenerational household where money was often tight and opportunities weren't always within reach. While many of my peers had access to resources, support systems, and experiences that seemed out of reach for my family, I learned early that success would require resilience, resourcefulness, and determination.
From a young age, I also became a caregiver. Helping care for my mother was simply part of life. While other teenagers were focused on typical milestones, I was learning responsibility, sacrifice, and perseverance long before I realized how much those lessons would shape my future.
The women who raised me taught me some of the most important lessons I've ever learned. They showed me what strength looks like in the face of adversity, how to keep moving forward when circumstances are difficult, and how to find dignity and purpose regardless of what life hands you. Long before I held a leadership position, they were teaching me what leadership truly meant.
When it came time to think about college, leaving home wasn't a realistic option. I made the difficult decision not to finish my degree at that time. Like many people from working-class backgrounds, I entered adulthood carrying responsibilities that didn't leave much room for following a traditional path.
Then, at just 20 years old, my world changed forever.
My mother passed away.
Grief has a way of making everything feel uncertain. For a period of time, I found myself homeless and struggling to figure out what came next. I worked jobs that paid the bills but offered little opportunity for growth.
Looking back, it would have been easy to believe that my circumstances would define the rest of my life.
But one thing I learned from my mother and grandmother was that giving up was never an option.
Eventually, I found my way into the home improvement industry. I started where many people do: at the bottom. I worked in a call center. From there, I became a production coordinator, then a project manager, then a punch-list coordinator, and eventually a manager.
With every position, I learned something new. I listened more than I talked. I asked questions. I took on responsibilities that weren't required of me. I earned trust by consistently showing up and delivering results.
What I discovered was that success isn't always about having the best credentials or the perfect résumé. Sometimes it's about being willing to do the work others overlook.
Years later, I made the decision to step away and explore opportunities in a different field. That experience broadened my perspective and strengthened my leadership and communication skills. Eventually, those experiences led me to where I am today: helping build and operate a company alongside my husband as Chief of Staff.
There is a misconception that because I work with my husband, my success exists because of him.
The truth is more nuanced.
Did my relationship create an opportunity? Absolutely.
But opportunity and qualification are not the same thing.
My husband would never have entrusted me with helping run a company if I lacked the skills, work ethic, leadership ability, and determination necessary to succeed. The role wasn't given to me—it was earned through years of experience, lessons, failures, growth, and persistence.
For much of my life, I have been underestimated.
I've been underestimated because of where I came from.
I've been underestimated because I didn't finish college on a traditional timeline.
I've been underestimated because I'm a woman.
And I've been underestimated because people assumed my accomplishments belonged to someone else.
What I've learned is that other people's opinions rarely determine your future. Your willingness to keep moving forward does.
Success doesn't belong exclusively to people who grew up with advantages. It doesn't belong only to those who followed a perfect plan. It doesn't require a flawless background, a prestigious degree, or the approval of others.
Success belongs to people who refuse to let their circumstances become their identity.
If my story proves anything, it's that where you start does not determine where you finish.
No matter where you come from, what you've lost, or what obstacles stand in your way today, you always have the ability to change your life.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is decide that your story isn't over yet.
