Learning to Lead People Who Were Older or More Experienced
Earning respect without pretending to have all the answers.
Earning respect without pretending to have all the answers.
Dedication, hard work, always doing what's right, and genuine commitment to clients, is what make a successful advisor year after year.
Value what those who came before you have experienced by asking them to share wisdom. People want to feel that they have something to bring to the conversation, and that you are aware of their contributions.
I earned the trust and respect of colleagues who had spent far more years in payroll than I had, not by pretending to know everything, but by showing up consistently, working diligently, and never being afraid to learn from those with more experience. That journey showed me that leadership isn't about being the most experienced person in the room. it's about building credibility through your actions, remaining open to learning, and helping others succeed as you grow.
Being the youngest person in the room most of the times taught me that credibility isn't given by age, it's earned through integrity, preparation, and how you make people feel. When people know you genuinely care about their success, they'll trust your leadership.
When I was promoted to a leadership role, several members of my team had been with the company for more than ten years, while I had only been there for three. I knew I couldn't earn their respect based on my title alone, so I focused on listening first. I spent time understanding their challenges, asking for their input and recognizing their expertise. When changes needed to be implemented, I involved them in the decision-making process rather than simply directing them. Over time, they saw that I respected their experience and was committed to helping the team succeed. This experience taught me that leadership is about building trust, creating collaboration and demonstrating consistency, not about the most experienced person in the room.
I asked questions, listened to advice, and wasn't afraid to admit when I didn't know something. At the same time, I showed up prepared, followed through on what I said I would do, and remained willing to learn.
Some of the most important rooms I've been in included people with far more experience than I had. I learned quickly that respect is earned through preparation, humility, and follow-through. Leadership is not about proving you belong; it's about making the work, the people, and the outcome better because you were there.
The mindset that we are all leaders working on one goal demands that we respect each other. The more experienced or older team member will not feel the once upon thoughts that they need to correct, remind or belittle the younger member. My experience is that you can mix respect and age; new ideas and youth to create a dynamic team.
Be respectful. No matter how much experience or old you are, showing respect towards others is important.
I learned that people don't follow confidence alone. They follow consistency, honesty, and someone who genuinely cares. Respect isn't demanded by experience; it's earned through how you treat others every single day.
Showing respect earns respect. Earlier in my career, I had incredible mentors. I put in a lot of effort to really listen and appreciate the guidance that I was gifted and in return, have intentionally demonstrated that their investment in me has made a difference. With my own team, I try to model the same thoughtful and graceful mentorship I was given myself.
Everyone has something to teach us, regardless of age, title, or tenure. The best leaders create environments where every voice is valued and every perspective has the opportunity to shape what's possible.